A brief introduction into the world of tantric sex and how it can enhance your love-making.
If you are older than 18 then chances are you have heard about ‘tantric sex’. It seems to come in and out of fashion on a regular basis, and right now it’s doing the rounds! But what exactly IS tantric sex? And why would you want to give tantric sex a go?
Let me explain…
Thank The Buddhist Monks
The word tantric comes who Buddhist teachings known as ‘Tantras’. Tantras are practices that work with the energy of the body and the transference of consciousness for a variety of purposes. Sex is one such area (although I can’t tell you for sure how much sex these Buddhist monks were actually having or if they intended their teachings to be used this way).
Now, I can understand your slight eye rolling at the mention of ‘energy’. There have been endless debates as to whether we do have an ‘energy’ or ‘life force’ that surrounds us or resides inside us. True spiritualists would have us believe that our life force is a powerful entity that can touch the lives or others, be seen by the naked eye and ultimately shapes our destiny. Hardened skeptics would argue that said spiritualists have spent to long in fields sitting around camfires, singing ‘KumBaYah’, and consuming vast quantities of mushrooms.
Me? I’m somewhere on the fence, and I’ll tell you why.
An Exercise You Can Try
Try this example. Close your eyes (after you’ve read this paragraph). Relax yourself and then begin to concentrate on the sensations in your right hand. Think deeply about everything you feel in that hand. Maybe the sensation of it on your lap. Or the warmth of the skin. Or the pulse you can feel in your thumb. You might even begin to feel the tiny individual hairs on the back of your hand. Do this for a minute then come back to me.
Go on, do it now.
Seriously. You won’t understand the point otherwise.
Done it? Good, then let’s continue.
I want you to answer this next question truthfully.
Once you began concentrating on your hand, did you begin to notice the sensations getting stronger and begin feeling things that you would not normally feel unless you had your mind focused on it?
At this point I think you’ll agree the answer is a resounding yes. All we did was focus intently on something and the feelings we experienced were magnified. You might have even had the sensation of feeling a little more connected to your hand, as though it wasn’t just a part of you, but felt truly alive.
So if you can experience that as a beginner in 60 seconds with just your hand, imagine if you did it whilst making love. Do you see where I’m going with this? The results would be insanely intense, not to mention sensationally gratifying.
How To Start Having Tantric Sex
Trust me. Tantric sex is no more complicated that that little exercise we did with your hand. In fact, once you understand the idea you can use it in any area of your life. But that’s another issue. Back to the sex…
Next time you are in the bedroom, try the following and see if you don’t have the most passionate, intense and uplifting love making session ever. All of these tantric sex techniques help you concentrate your mind and keep it focused, which will in turn heighten your senses, just like in the hand exercise.
Slow everything down - Take your time. Make your movements slow and deliberate. Don’t be looking for the next position.
Find a comfortable position - The best tantric sex positions enable you to look your lover in the eyes for that added sense of connectedness. The positions should also be comfortable enough for you both to remain there for as long as you need to. Woman on top and the T-Square position (the woman is on her back with her legs spread wide apart. Her partner lies with his hips under the arch formed by her raised legs) are good ones to try first.
Don’t Rush To Reach Orgasm - You know that old saying “It’s the journey, not the destination”? It’s absolutely true and applies to tantric sex perfectly. Forget about your orgasm that may or may not occur in the future. Instead concentrate on what is happening right now, at that precise moment. Paradoxically doing this will ultimately give you the orgasm you desire without you having to chase it.
Practice Makes Perfect…And Incredible Orgasms
If you practice the exercises above, in a very short space of time you will notice a transformation in the bedroom. It will give you the ability to better control your sexual energy, resulting in longer orgasms, more powerful orgasms, and full body orgasms.
If that doesn’t encourage you to want to learn more then you better call the emergency services – you’re heart obviously stopped beating and you need resuscitation.
Remember to keep everything in perspective. Tantric sex is not something you have to do everytime. I’m not asking you to give up the 1 minute wonder ravaging you so often crave. Just include it as part of your sexual repertoire every once in a while.
You may also want to take a look at The Tantra Chair.
So go out and enjoy the experience of learning and sharing these tantric sex techniques with your lover. I would love to hear your personal experiences, so don’t forget to come back and post them in the comments below!
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I just wanted to say that this is pretty interesting and I am gong to tell my husband about it. I think that it will spice things up a bit.