Romance means different things to different people and especially different sexes which is why romance is something that is often at the root of a disagreement in relationships.
I know, very stereotypical the whole woman complaining to her husband that he needs to be more romantic thing. Sadly there are plenty of men putting in what they think is a decent effort and the reason it goes unnoticed may be simply because his idea of romance isn’t quite what hers is.
Here is perfect example of that; a former boyfriend once showed up on a Friday night to pick me up from my evening shift and told me he had a big surprise for me. After driving for about and hour we pulled into a campground. Much to my horror he had planned a surprise weekend of camping because he thought it would be romantic and spontaneous and just the kind of thing that would make my heart flutter because I had expressed a love of road trips and weekends away. I actually meant road trips by day and a quaint bed and breakfast in another town by night – not a long drive after having worked all evening followed by pitching a tent in darkness in a bug infested wilderness! But can you see how this happened?
Understanding your partner’s idea of romance is the key to planning the perfect romantic evening or getaway or buying the perfect romantic gift. Sometimes just listening isn’t enough as my example shows and you’ll need to learn to read between the lines and if all else fails, there is nothing wrong with asking point blank what he or she considers romantic. Hey – communication is never a bad thing in a relationship!
Planning a romantic weekend or buying the perfect gift doesn’t always have to be a total surprise either. Actually, if you’re not one hundred percent certain about what your partner wants or considers to be truly romantic; getting them in on the planning or even the shopping is not a cop out! Instead of trying to surprise them with a romantic weekend away or what you think is a romantic gift, why not surprise them with a night in front of the computer planning that perfect getaway together or browsing a romantic gifts site and letting them choose something they absolutely love!
That is just as spontaneous and generous while cutting out the risk of your making yet another bad choice when it comes to romance in your relationship. Besides, it’s also a great way to see first hand what they choose and consider romantic so that you know for the next time.
Clever isn’t it?
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