Sharing fantasies with your partner can be extremely erotic. I love hearing Squire Tingle’s naughty thoughts, not only because I love seeing him get hot and bothered but also because I love that he is willing to share his inner most secrets with me.
I’ve always had a large collection of Black Lace books in my toy chest and recently we bought Nancy Friday’s Men in Love together. It makes for fascinating reading, especially as it enables us to talk about the fantasies that we each respond too (if it hasn’t become blatantly obvious in more physical ways!).
I don’t necessarily agree with Nancy Friday’s agenda in Men in Love but I love reading so many varied and interesting fantasies from men of all different sizes, shapes, ethnicity, social demographic and age.
“Love, love is a verb, love is a doing word.”
Song lyrics often hide true and pertinent philosophies. Love is not a feeling, it is in your actions.
One of the most romantic, personal and sensual gifts you can give your lover is to bring one of their fantasies to life. I love bringing Squire Tingle’s fantasies to life. It might not always be possible to replicate precisely (I don’t think I’ll ever arrange for us to have sex in space!) but a little creativity and preparation can go a long way.
If this idea appeals to you, but you want to make sure you are comfortable with the situation that you end up in, I recommend the following approach.
- Send your lover an invitation explicitly stating (and the more explicit the better) exactly what is on offer and when it will happen.
- Carefully describe how the scene will unfold including what will happen before, during and after.
- Hint as to what your reaction will be. Maybe you’ll be hesitant at first and need convincing but then get carried away in the moment.
- If you are a sensitive being like me then I recommend covering what will happen afterwards so that the experience is hugely pleasurable for both of you.
- Packaging details are import here. Think parchment, fountain pens, ribbons and sealing wax.
As the author of the fantasy, I like to keep some element of surprise for myself.
For example, if the fantasy was to meet a stranger in the park on an evening stroll and to make out in the bushes (you get the idea) then I’d write that the fantasy can unfold at one of three specific times (e.g. Monday, Tuesday or Wednesday afternoon) and then I’d arrange to be walking in the park on each day. The receiver of your letter then gets to choose the day, making it all the more exciting and real for you. It’s delicious not knowing when I’m going to be ravished. As we all know, anticipation is the mother of all turn ons.
I usually send the invitation about a week in advance to build suspense. It’s wonderful knowing that Squire Tingle is reading it and getting all flustered thinking about what he is going to do to me. He tells me it is very distracting… Anticipation works both ways!
If you want to go the extra mile I highly recommend sending a small present with the invitation, maybe some Karma Sutra Oil of Love or a Coco De Mer Tease Gift Set.
Your most powerful erotic tool is your own imagination so enjoy it!
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